Your Motivation for December 12, 2018

Good morning, welcome to Wednesday!

At first glance, this quote may seem a little obscure.

Here is my interpertation of it, if you have another, please, write them in the comments section below.

Everyone wants to trust in something. We buy insurance, go to college, and do other things because we trust that these external devices will help us feel secure.

However, there is one universal truth we all share, we are mortal and we are all vulnerable. These branches of security we trust are breakable.

In fact, it is an inevitable truth that the branch WILL break.

To help us prepare for the breaking of the branch, all humans have two choices to strengthen our wings.  Each choice leads to a different fate.

One choice is to ignore and not love ourselves or others.

The second choice is to spend our time on earth loving others and ourselves.

If we have followed the first choice and concerned ourselves only with shoring up the branch but ignored our wings and the wings of others, then when the branch breaks we will fall.

However, if we spend our time and energy learning to love ourselves, loving others, we will have strengthened our wings. So, when the branch breaks we will spread our wings and fly away.

The choice is yours, and it is mine.

Shirley

 

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Your Motivation for December 11, 2018

 

Hello and welcome to Tuesday, December 11. It’s Shirley again bringing you my take on life and living.

Recognize yourself in the picture above?

If you live in the United States you probably do.

The crowds, the cleaning, the rush, rush, rush!

Then comes gathering with the family including children, in-laws and folks you would rather not see ever again but feel obligated to this time of year.

The effect? We all look like the poor Santa in this picture. Worn out, exhausted, kaput.

Perhaps this time of year is when we need to spend the most time taking care of ourselves. Oh, sure, we need to eat right and get good exercise but there is another aspect we all too often forget, our emotions.

It’s easy to become overwhelmed by it all and feel guilty because we aren’t jolly and all HO-HO-HO.

There is nothing wrong with saying, “ENOUGH!” and going offline for awhile. Turning off the television, computer, iPad, and smartphone might just be the answer to keep you going. Silence is a wonderful gift during the holiday season, I would recommend it for everyone.

I’m not a professional, I’m just a little advice from someone who cares about you.

There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace. You will find that deep place of silence right in your room, your garden or even your bathtub. – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

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Your Motivation for December 10, 2018

Hello, and welcome to Monday. It’s Shirley from your PatientNextDoor Support Team.

Helen Keller was an exceptional woman. After losing her eyesight and ability to hear at the age of two, she nevertheless went on to graduate from college, give lectures and write books.

There are a few things about Miss Keller’s life that haven’t made it into the movies or popular culture.

The brilliant Helen Keller was forbidden by law to marry and have children because of her disabilities.

To be fair, at that time people didn’t understand genetics like we do today or they would have realized that Helen Keller’s disabilities could not be passed on to her offspring.

At one point in her life, Helen fell in love but she was not allowed to follow through with marrying the young man who loved her dearly.

So, Helen Keller lead a life full of heartache and loss.

However, there was an inner strength in her that is rare. She believed, like I do, that life is an adventure and something to be savored.

Even though she faced enormous hurdles all her life that she was forced to jump over, she still kept to her belief that set her apart from so many,

“Security is mostly superstition. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”

Miss Keller admitted that there is a little bit of security, but she wanted others to know what an adventure life can be if we acknowledge it.

How wonderful is that.

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December 7, 2018 ~ Pearl Harbor Day

On December 7, 1941 the Japanese attacked Pearl Harbor, Hawaii.

Regardless of the politics behind the attack, and irregardless of who won the war, countless lives were changed that day.

In total, 2,335 people died including 2,008 Navy personnel, 109 Marines, 218 army men, and 68 civilians.

When the Arizona was hit, 1,177 young men lost their lives.

War is so ugly that no one wins. Eventually, with hearts full of revenge, the United States defeated the Japanese by using weapons that are too horrible to be true.

World War II was the end of an age of innocense and the beginning of a world always on the brink of total anihilation.

Seventy-seven years later the world is still reeling from the affects of a war where it is estimated that between 70-85 million perished, military and civilians alike.

That staggering number includes Holocaust victims, crimes against humanity, bombings, war-related disease and famine, amounting to the tragedy of 19-30 million civilians died.

The number of people who died made up 3% of the world’s population at that time.

As the U.S. grieves today over the deaths of so many young and promising young men, let us join together to also say never again.

I offer you my hopes and prayers that humanity will stop the madness and finally understand that if one of us dies in war, we all do.  For every person is precious adding beauty to the voice of mankind.

“It is from numberless diverse acts of courage and belief that human history is shaped.

Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope,

and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring,

those ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.”

~ Robert F. Kennedy

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We care about you.

Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in this post are the personal views of the author. They do not necessarily reflect the views of PatientNextDoor. Any omissions or errors are the author’s and PatientNextDoor does not assume any liability or responsibility for them.

 

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Your Motivation for December 7, 2017

Welcome to Friday everyone, it’s Shirley from the PatientNextDoor support team.

I read a quote lately that said,

“It costs $0.00 to be a decent human being.”

How true that is for all of us.

Our world is facing the greatest crisis it has ever seen. Hatred, fear, and divisiveness  threaten to tear apart the fabric of decency that has kept us from destroying one another like never before.

There have been times in the past century when the world was threatened by mad men who wanted to control the earth. However, now humanity has discovered new and horrible ways to kill and destroy every creature on the globe.

What will it take to turn humanity around and assure that our species will continue?

Perhaps if each of us, individually, makes up our minds to practice the seven rules listed above, we can save us from ourselves.

I don’t know about you, but I believe humanity is good and wants to be better, but we must put away our petty differences.

If you look at any X-ray, MRI, or CAT scan of any human being from anyplace in the world, you will see we are far more alike than different.

It doesn’t matter what color you are, what region of the globe you come from, what religion you are, your sexual orientation, or any other demograph you can think of, under our skin there are no differences. None at all.

Mahatma Gandhi said it best when he stated;

“Where there is love there is life.”

It’s time we began to love or at least respect one another and embrace our differences instead of trying to force each other to conform to what we believe is right.

The only other course of action leads to destruction and none of us want that.

Another way we are alike.

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Your Motivation for December 6, 2018

 

Hello everyone, welcome to Thursday.

It may seem premature to be thinking about the new year, but 2019 is only a few weeks away.

So, it is time NOW to consider the emotional baggage you are carrying and what you want to burden you next year.What is emotional baggage?

“the feelings you have about your past and the things that have happened to you, which often have a negative effect on your behavior and attitudes” Collins Dictionary

The “things” that happened may have been as serious as childhood trauma or as intermediate as someone passing gossip around the office about you.

Humans cannot go back in time, so whatever happened to you, be it twenty years ago or two hours ago, are over, done, kaput.

Why not choose to leave as much of your baggage in 2018 as is humanly possible and move on?

I realize some “things” must be dealt with and cannot nor should not be ignored. However, sometimes choosing to live on and leave what harmed us behind is the best revenge we can have on those who harmed us.

You have a right to grieve over past hurts, but there must come a time to leave those “things” behind and live. You deserve to be happy, and too many times we aren’t being held back by what others have done to us, but by what we do to ourselves.

A bird who has lived in a cage for too long will choose to remain inside and not fly away even when the door is open. We too can inhabit cages of our own making and choose to remain in our misery even though escape is right before us.

We must choose to leave, we must choose to be happy, we must choose to drop the baggage.

Think on this piece of wisdom for today and consider you  baggage before January 1, 2019 arrives.

 

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Your Motivation for December 5, 2018

Hi everyone, December is here and with its arrival the hubbub of getting ready for Christmas begins.

Because of how the season is created in the movies, the small screen, and Norman Rockwell paintings, we set our sights on making our “perfect Christmas” just like we’ve seen in the media.

On the big and small screens, families may have some turmoil but at the end when Christmas finally arrives all their problems are laid to rest and harmony reigns.

We have all watched as fictitious families sitting about the roaring flames in the fireplace enjoying the love and warmth of family. We have decided we want that too.

Then reality sinks in Christmas morning.

The kids are uncooperative in getting dressed for the obligatory dinner at moms, the dog gets sick from eating tinsel, and it has snowed so you are forced outdoors to shovel it out in the bitter cold.

Our conception of “the perfect Christmas” come crashing down.

“Well,” we may find ourselves thinking, “I’m sure somewhere there is someone having a perfect Christmas, but not here.”

Beset with anger and bitterness, we continue to force a smile and try our best to be jolly when we feel blue.

Sound familiar to anyone out there?

Here is some news that may shock you, no one has the perfect holiday experience. It’s a myth.

Let’s be honest, we set ourselves up for disappointment when we swallow the lie that families are always loving and supportive during the holidays. Beginning in September (at least in my town), big retailers begin putting up Christmas trees to entice shoppers. Then the day after Thanksgiving the madness begins.

The long lines.

Children crying because they want Christmas toys NOW.

The extra house cleaning.

The worry over how much you want to go into debt to “celebrate.”

The Christmas carols playing so loud in the department stores that they are annoying.

What we all need to realize is that although we have been influenced by what we view on TV, we are the ones who are setting ourselves up for disappointment.

Perhaps it’s time to rearrange what “the perfect Christmas” means to us and our families.

The beginning of this change needs to be taking stock of what is important and what will last.

Will the toy your child gets this year be remembered in twenty years when they are grown?

And speaking of grown children, yours won’t be small for long, shouldn’t you be enjoying them today?

Perhaps it is time for us to set new traditions for our families such as telling each other one funny (not sarcastic) story about one family member on Christmas morning. Alert all the members of your household that they will be telling a story and draw names out of a hat to get the person they will be speaking on. Tell everyone to keep who they have pulled a secret and let the fun begin.

Plan to stay home Christmas morning. Relief yourself of the travel and cold. Then sit about and watch Christmas movies while eating cookies.

If the kids get rambunctious, plan ahead with some family games that all can participate in. If you have toddlers in your home, team them up with someone older.

Forget the hassle of shopping in busy and crowded stores.

Have everyone make their presents for one another. Ask for lists from everyone for the materials they need and tell everyone to help each other when aid is requested.

Reassure the kids that they will be receiving a few things from Santa, but don’t overdo it.

There are literally tons of things that you can plan but remember to keep it all light and to keep your expectations in check.

After all, kids are kids and there are bound to be a few moments of bickering along the way. Don’t get bogged down and blue when your kids don’t act like perfect Norman Rockwell angels during the holidays.

Decide with your family what really matters to all of you. I think you will find that what kids want from you at Christmas time isn’t the expensive presents or the ride to grandma’s house. What they want more than anything is your time, attention, and love.

We’ll be taking more looks at dealing with the holiday seasons as the month goes along. Keep your chin up and your head out of the perfect Norman Rockwell clouds.

Shirley

Here at Patient Next Door we are dedicated to helping your family not only survive the holiday season, but to truly enjoy it.

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Your Motivation for December 4, 2018

Hello, welcome to Tuesday.

We’re all guilty of it, worrying about something and anticipating the worst.

However, what does it benefit us? How does spending time worrying help the situation be resolved in our favor?

It doesn’t.

All worrying ever does is make us miserable and many times we’ve expended huge amounts of energy and the situation resolves itself without the worst ever happening.

What can we do differently?

We can choose to not anticipate the worst but believe in the best possible outcome.

We can trust that we have made the correct decisions that will promote a good outcome.

You can also make plans ahead of time to deal with any problems that do arise should the worst happen.

Then the hard part begins, sit back quietly and wait.

Don’t forget to download and utilize our free Patient Next Door app onto your smartphone. With it, you can share the healthcare journey of you and your child with people who are facing similar conditions.

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Your Motivation for December 3, 2018

Hello, and welcome to Monday! It’s Shirley again here to share some motivation with you.

Life can be hard and very demanding. We often find ourselves bogged down and fearful because of events that happen over which we have little to no control.

The horrendous storms of turmoil fill our days and nights with worry and sometimes we don’t see how we will ever be happy again.

A good friend once repeated this quote to me, “Hang on. One day you’ll wake up and realize that the clouds have finally parted and the sun is shining again.”

That was sound advice and goes along with the quote I’ve included above.

The truth is that hard times befall us all. Sometimes we get so caught up in the drama and trauma of those events that we feel lost and alone.

However, above the clouds of fear and helplessness, the sun is shining.

I guarantee it.

One way to conquer over the worry and uncertainty of hard times is to use them as a platform to rise above the clouds.

Slow down for a minute, or even stop what you are doing.

Take time to be grateful for what you have.

Think about how far you have come instead of the defeat you are feeling about where you are.

I guarantee if you look back along the road you’ve traveled you will find that you have traveled farther than you imagined.

That’s when the sun is shining because it brings new understanding and light into your understanding of your life’s travels.

If, while you are basking in the warmth of the sun,  you discover you’ve made a wrong turn, then make the decisions that will propel you in the right direction.

Don’t waste time on regret and self-loathing for going down the incorrect road, be proactive and change your direction.

Be proud that you were able to rise up above the clouds long enough to recognize you have traveled far in the wrong direction.

Yes, life can be very difficult. However, we always have the choice to reassess where we are and take actions to make the corrections in our course and make our lives better.

Chin up, as long as you are alive, there is always hope.

Don’t forget to download and utilize our free Patient Next Door app onto your smartphone. With it, you can share the healthcare journey of you and your child with people who are facing similar conditions.

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As always, we here at Patient Next Door love serving you and hope you will join us in aiding others in finding resources and hope.

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Your Motivation for November 30, 2018

Hello and welcome to Friday. It’s Shirley again, sharing a few words to start your day off on the right foot.

So many of us spend our time forcing our way through life, afraid to live, afraid to die.

We worry about money, work, education and miss out on the little things that really count. We get so wrapped up in our day to day struggles that we miss the most important reality about life, we only have one to live.

While money, work, and education are important, are they so much so that we forget to live?

Have people forgotten how to sit back, enjoy our children, spend quality time with our partners and how to relax?

Unfortunately, the answer to these questions for many of us is yes.

Someone once said that youth is wasted on the young. I understand that statement. It wasn’t until I was in my fifth decade of life that a very wise woman taught me that life is for living, not for worry and work.

However, that’s why people like me who have awakened to the fact that life is a wondrous adventure. We try our best to spread the word that now is the time to enjoy life because we are all the same in one very important aspect;

We all have only one life to live, so we need to enjoy it because we’re not getting out of it alive.

Hug your kids

Tell your partner you live them

Take time to relax

And above all else, breath

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Your Motivation for November 29, 2018

 

Hi, Shirley here bringing you your daily dose of wisdom.

I say wisdom, but that doesn’t mean I believe I am wise. I say so because any words of encouragement in my book are wise.

Birds don’t sing because they know the answers to life, they sing because that’s who they are and they celebrate that fact.

How I’d love to be like a bird. Wouldn’t you?

Today, let’s all meditate on this saying and consider how much better our lives could be if we stopped trying to force answers to life, and simply enjoyed it.

Don’t forget to download and utilize our free Patient Next Door app onto your smartphone. With it, you can share the healthcare journey of you and your child with people who are facing similar conditions.

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As always, we here at Patient Next Door love serving you and hope you will join us in aiding others in finding resources and hope.

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Your Motivation for November 28, 2018

Hello, welcome to Wednesday! It’s Shirley with a few words of wisdom to start off your hump day.

Too many of us, in the United States especially, measure how we impact the world by how much money we make. We work hard, save, and raise our children using our income as a measure of our success.

However, as the old saying goes “money isn’t everything.”

Please, allow me to ask these poignant questions.

Will having an income leave the legacy you want?

Will leaving your kids riches make them happy in the future?

Do you find comfort that you have money saved away and that you didn’t give any money to help others?

Isn’t life about more than working until you drop?

You see, when we invest money in others, we invest in ourselves. After all, we are all of us intimately linked.

No, a legacy I want to leave is one of how I loved, understood and supported my fellow man.

I have no money. In fact, I live on very little income as I have been physically and mentally disabled since 1995. My family of four lives on less than $1,000 / month.

Yet I try very hard to give away what I have, loving and caring words of comfort. I volunteer wherever I can and enjoy life on life’s terms.

I’m creating a legacy.

What about you?

What can you give to your fellow man that will leave a  legacy?

What lessons do you want to teach your children?

Lessons of greedy “I want-ism” or lessons of giving and caring for their brothers and sisters in humanity?

Do you want your children to enjoy their lives or spend them working and working earning an income without knowing the joy of living?

The choice is yours.

Don’t forget to download and utilize our free Patient Next Door app onto your smartphone. With it, you can share the healthcare journey of you and your child with people who are facing similar conditions.

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Your Motivation for November 27, 2018

Hi, Shirley here with a few words of wisdom.

No one can be okay all of the time. It’s just not possible.

And you know what? That is totally and perfectly alright.

Nobody likes to feel bad, and sometimes admitting to others we’re down can be difficult.  However, that’s what I’m going to encourage all of you to do.

I have a hard time admitting to people who are close to me that I am feeling rotten. My reluctance stems from the traumatic childhood I had where my feelings weren’t validated.

Now I struggle to say, “Hey, I’m not okay!” even when I’m terribly frightened or ill.

I don’t know about you, but when someone asks me if I’m doing okay, my automatic answer is, “I’m okay.” Such an answer helps no one, especially me.

I’m trying to practice being honest and saying, “No, I’m not doing very well. Thank you for asking. Can you help me out?”

That is one of the purposes of PatientNextDoor. We want to always be reaching out to our members and each other in honest and open communication.

If you ever feel down or just need a shoulder to cry on, please, always feel free to contact us by email. If you need, you can also contact others who share the same concerns as you on our free and ads free phone app.

Don’t forget to download and utilize our free Patient Next Door app onto your smartphone.

As always, we here at Patient Next Door love serving you and hope you will join us in aiding others in finding resources and hope.

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Your Motivation for November 26, 2018

 

Hi again and welcome to Monday. It’s Shirley again bringing you a taste of hope from PatientNextDoor.

Nobody has perfect days all the time.  Sometimes the best we can hope for is tolerable ones where things at least don’t go horribly wrong.

On those rainy days when we’re feeling gloomy, we must work extra hard to make them at least tolerable.

Look for the things that make you smile, and concentrate on them. Did you get out of bed feeling rested this morning? Well, that’s something to smile about. How about asking yourself if someone smiled at you on your way to work. A family member? A co-worker? Or maybe your favorite pet wagged their tail in the pleasure of just seeing you?

Think about the things that make you smile and try to play down those that make you frown, and I bet you will find that miserable day has become tolerable.

Try to always remember that we here at Patient Next Door love smiling when we think about you and your family. We enjoy serving you and hope you will join us in aiding others in finding resources and hope.

Don’t forget to download and utilize our free Patient Next Door app onto your smartphone. With it, you can share the healthcare journey of you and your child with people who are facing similar conditions.

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We bring these pieces of hope for only one reason,

We care about you.

 

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Your Motivation for November 23, 2018

Albert Einstein was one of the most intelligent men to have lived in the last century. He invented new ways of looking at physics that has revolutionized our world in almost incomprehensible ways.

But, did you know he was a bit of a philosopher too?

The quote by Dr. Einstein above says so much in so few words, but the message I get from it is special.

As people of the 21st century, we spend a lot of time concentrating on how smart or not smart we are comparing our abilities to one another. If we are wise, we do not allow ourselves to get caught up in the competition, but that proves much harder than it sounds.

When we meet someone who is not what we as a society has decided are “intelligent”, we often will either shun them or try to put them into an all-inclusive mold. This often leads to those with intellectual disabilities feeling either false, yet well-meaning statements about how they do at their tasks, or them feeling utter failures.

But, it isn’t only people with obvious intellectual disabilities who we try to shove into what we think they should fit into, it happens to ALL of us.

In the United States, we are taught in childhood that we can become whatever we want to be if we try hard enough. That isn’t true. People aren’t all born with the same talents or even the same levels of talents. That’s what makes a people strong and has kept humanity going for eons, the weaving together of all the abilities of a community no matter how large or small.

If you try to shove a carpenter into the mold of a painter of murals, they will probably fail and vise versa.

All of humanity needs to learn that everyone is valuable and a genius at what they are capable of doing. We must stop lying to people and be honest, looking at what they CAN do as opposed to what we think they SHOULD do.

You are special and so am I. Let’s remember to tell each other that we respect each other and work together to make being a member of the human race something to make us all feel proud.

Don’t forget to download and utilize our free Patient Next Door app onto your smartphone. With it, you can share the healthcare journey of you and your child with people who are facing similar conditions.

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As always, we here at Patient Next Door love serving you and hope you will join us in aiding others in finding resources and hope.

We care about you.

 

 

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Your Motivation for November 20, 2018

Hi again, it’s Shirley from your PatientNextDoor support team.

Life is too long and complicated to spend all your time being serious. Sometimes you just need to sit back and laugh.

Laughter is especially important when things are going wrong.  I’m not saying that seriousness isn’t important, far from it. What I am saying though, is that by not seeing the humor in life you are dooming yourself to a life of being miserable just for miseries sake.

So, the next time you fail or face a hard choice, try to see the humor in it. No matter what, you can always laugh at your reaction or overreaction to that situation.

If you need help, google funny quotes or pictures. Soon you’ll find yourself giggling.

Laughter gives a whole new perspective to life.

Lighten up, and laugh!

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