Your Motivation for November 12, 2018

There is an old saying that I remember from my early years that comes from Christianity, “Don’t be so heavenly minded that you’re no earthly good.”

It may be that the church picked up this saying from Theodore Roosevelt, or maybe the other way around.

No matter who began this intriguing thought the premise of it and message it conveys is relevant to all of us, regardless of our political or religious affiliation.

By keeping our eyes on the stars we can reach for a goal that may at first seem impossible.  Take for instance my own work at living a chaos-free life caused by dissociative identity disorder. When I began my journey the life I have now seemed far off and unreachable, yet I kept fighting on. I kept my eyes on the prize if you will.

But I kept my feet firmly planted in the reality that no matter how hard or long I work on the issues caused in my past, I cannot change that past. I can only learn to accept and use my past to propel me into a brighter future.

If we don’t pay attention to either keeping our eyes on the stars or our feet on the ground, we get in trouble quick.

By only focusing on the stars we forget the realities of life and will lose our dreams due to the frustration of the failures that will inevitably be a part of our search.

If we only focus on the ground, we forget our dreams and never go for them at all deeming them impossible to reach.

I may not be a master of understanding of life, but I do know that all humans need to do both to remain in balance and be happy.

I’m grateful to Randeep Singh and you for allowing me to come to you with these little pieces of motivation and the articles that I write for PatientNextDoor. I enjoy writing to you all very much.

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Your Motivation for November 8, 2018

Hi again, Shirley here from PatientNextDoor.

Winston Churchill was Prime Minister of England during the second world war, possibly the darkest time in recent history for that country.

His fellow citizens faced daily bombing from the Germans and loss of life was always on everyone’s mind.

Mr. Churchill knew pain, he knew pain, he knew what it was like to live through the hell of war.

Somehow he found the courage to give his country the emotional support and strength they desperately needed to make it through.

While the tragedy of war may seem an extreme example to compare to personal discouragement and problems, I submit they are very much the same.

We all go tough times now and then. Sometimes those hard times get really trying and seem like they will never end.

Some of us begin to think of taking drastic actions to end our pain such as running away from our families or even dying by suicide.

I have been there, I know. I have almost lost my life to suicide four times in my 58 years on planet earth.

If there is one thing I hope you will remember today, it is the message I’m leaving you below.

Yes, you may be living through the turmoil of hell today but what about tomorrow or a month even a year from now? What then? What good thing is right around the corner that you cannot see yet because it is in the future?

When I get ill with my depression and other problems, and I feel a spat of suicidality coming on, I remind myself of just that.

If I hang on, the fire of the current hell will sputter and die. Beyond the horizon of the “now” that separates me from my future may be the most powerful and wonderful experience I could have ever imagined.

Life is full of tragedies and triumphs. It’s all a matter of, like Winston Churchill so aptly put it, keeping going.

I hope these little notes I try to write to you during the week help you. I know they help me to remember who I am and that life is beautiful despite its trials and tribulations.

Have a wonderful rest of your Thursday. Shirley

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Your Motivation for November 7, 2018

 

Hi, Shirley here with your motivation to help you finish this Wednesday in early November.

We all have a basic flaw that has been passed down through our human lineage, we tend to pay more attention to what is going wrong than what and might go right.

At least, I do.

I’ll confess, I talk a great talk, but sometimes I get lost in the negativity that most of the time is invented by my own mind. I feel negative about where I live and lose sight of the fact that I live better than over half the world.

I get negative about my being in a wheelchair and forget that there are millions in the world who are suffering severe illnesses and lack the care they need.

I tend to spend a great deal of time focusing on what might go wrong in the future, and forget that there is an equal chance things will go right.

What’s worse, I tend to become the author of self-fulfilling prophecy, making myself vulnerable to overlook the steps I could take to avoid failure.

Are you like me?

Well, if so, don’t be hard on yourself because you are definitely in good company.

How can we change this flaw in ourselves? How can we end the self-fulfilling prophecies that make our lives tough?

The only answer I have found is to make a gratitude list.

Making a gratitude sounds simple and easy, and it is if you’re experiencing a happy time in your life.

However, writing a list of things you are thankful for when you feel crappy is much harder.

Start simple. Can you see, hear, speak, walk and have a roof over your head? Be grateful for those things. Then branch out. Have you got plenty of food, clean water, and warm clothing to wear? Be grateful for those things because millions do not.

While making your list at first you will frown at the exercise, but before you have finished you may find you are experiencing a whole different feeling, joy.

Yep, a dose of gratitude goes a long way and if you are anything like me, you know, human, you will need to remind yourself of that often.

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Don’t worry if you forget you have lots to be thankful for, we all have been there.

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Your Motivation for November 6, 2018

Hi, it’s Shirley from your PatientNextDoor support team.

I don’t know about you, but I have spent a lot of time with trial and error. I started to go to college when I was 18 and didn’t finish my Associate Degree until I was 56. I had a lot of illness and had to drop school over and over again.

But you know what? I kept trying and trying until one evening in 2016 I crossed the stage and received my diploma.

The victory of receiving my degree was made even sweeter because I had been trying so hard for so many years.

Edison could have given up trying to find the right filament for his new-fangled light bulb but he didn’t. He tried one after the other for years and on the 10,000th try met with success.

Isn’t that the gumption and power all humans possess? Some of us give up early believing they cannot succeed, but to many humans, a challenge that is difficult is something to be desired and cherished.

You see, that curiosity of what is around the next bend or around the next corner is what has driven our species to inhabit the entire globe.

I guess what I’m saying is this.

If you meet with a tough situation and can’t find the answers, that’s okay. Keep trying.

That doesn’t mean trying the same thing over and over again believing you will get a different result. That is one definition of insanity.

What it does mean is that we should never give up, especially on our dreams.

Have a wonderful Tuesday everybody!! Shirley

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Your Morning Motivation for November 5, 2018

Good morning everyone, welcome to Monday. It’s Shirley from the Patient Next Door support team.

This picture truly does say a thousand words. There are some things we can control, and many of them are listed above. If we spend our time paying attention to the things WE CAN control then we can live calm lives.

However, when our eyes roam to other people and we see things in their lives that we want to change, that’s when we get into trouble.

You see, we cannot change others, nor can we control them.

Unless the other person is a very young child, we are not responsible for their actions. Even when the things they are doing are harmful to them, we cannot and will not ever change someone else’s life. They are responsible. Period.

Learning to accept this concept is vital to living well and enjoying life.

As always, I do not bring topics like this to our reader’s attention not to scold or to make anyone feel bad about themselves.

I bring them to your attention so that you will become aware because awareness is the first step in defeating a problem.

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Your End of the Week Motivation for November 2, 2018

Hi there. Shirley here.

This quote doesn’t have to come true. We can choose to live life until we die instead of mourning a life lost.

Sometimes in these modern times, we get all tangled up in the struggles of living that we forget to live.

We are always reaching and reaching and thinking, “Oh, I need to struggle now. There will be plenty of time later to do more living.”

If you are like me, you sometimes feel like a hamster on a wheel trying and trying but going nowhere fast.

I try to remind myself, and I’m reminding you now, that there may be no later. None of us is promised a long life and death in old age. Why not get off the hamster wheel and pay attention to the flowers or the fall colors. Why not take time now to stand under the stars and point them out to our children.

Why not?

Just a reminder from my heart to yours about what matters most in our lives.

 

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Your Motivation for November 1, 2018

Hi, me again, Shirley your contact person with the PND support team.

l wrote the above quote with this picture to illustrate a point that too many of us miss.

No one can make us happy or unhappy. We choose to allow the behavior, attitudes, and words of others change how we feel about our own happiness.

We harm ourselves by not choosing ways that are healthy to cope with our day to day lives.

For instance, depending on a significant other to “fulfill you” is hogwash. If you aren’t fulfilled before you get involved romantically, your relationship is doomed from the start.

Two half people do not make a whole.

Two wounded people cannot heal each other.

By finding the wounds in our own hearts and healing as best we can BEFORE we meet someone else we are not only much more likely to be happy but to choose others who are also healed of their own baggage.

Hey, I’m not an expert when it comes to this concept, God knows I have harmed myself a lot through not doing as this piece suggests. However, now that I am aware I stand a much greater chance at love and living a happy life.

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I enjoy bringing you these slivers of information and hope. If you have one you would like to share, please send us a note! I would love to publish your motivational quote or story here.

As always, we here at Patient Next Door love serving you and hope you will join us in aiding others in finding resources and hope.

Remember, we care about you and we’re all in this together.
 

 

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Your Motivation for October 31, 2018

Good morning, it’s your friend Shirley from the PatientNextDoor support team.

Having an internal locus of control is vital to living a happy and secure life.

An internal locus of control means that you don’t wait for others to make you happy, you make your own happiness.

To find out how to achieve this, look at the link I’ve provided from Psychology Today.

Turning to others for support is marvelous, but depending on them to meet your emotional needs is neither fair nor possible.

Only we know what we need and want.  To expect someone to KNOW what you need and then feeling depressed and angry because they didn’t? Well, that’s insanity at its best.

I hope you are getting revitalized by these Monday-Friday motivational pieces. It is my intention to offer you food for thought and to uplift you every day.

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You can also give and receive encouragement from people who understand where you are and where you have been.

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I and the other members of the PNxD support team are dedicated to helping you and your family find the resources you need.

The reason for our dedication is simple, you and your family mean the world to us!

We truly and honestly care about you.

 

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Your Motivational Quote for October 30, 2018

Good day, it’s Shirley from the PatientNextDoor support team.

“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.”

In a world that is becoming more and more divided along race, religion, and political lines I felt the above quote by Helen Keller’s appropriate.

I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of reading the headlines each morning only to be dismayed by the hate I see written about there.

Innocent lives snuffed out by hate and bigotry, children afraid to go to school and their equally terrified parents, it is all disturbing and horrible. The hate being spewed by politicians speak the language of those who would divide human beings as being either worthy or worthless.

It must stop, so let it begin with me.

I wish to speak words of peace and love, not hate. I do not want to spread lies or innuendo nor do I wish to be bigoted against any person.

I am not a religious person and as such will not press anyone to believe in something they do not. However, the prayer of St. Francis of Assisi are ringing in my ears as I hope they will ring in yours.

“Lord, make me an instrument of your peace; where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is discord, union; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy.

“O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console; to be understood, as to understand; to be loved, as to love; for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.” Amen.

Amen indeed.

The day humanity crosses over from hate and suspicion of others to love and understanding is the day we can all finally take a deep breath and truly begin to live.

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Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in this post are the personal views of the author. They do not necessarily reflect the views of PatientNextDoor. Any omissions or errors are the author’s and PatientNextDoor does not assume any liability or responsibility for them.

 

 

 

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Motivational Quote for October 29, 2018

Hello, it’s Shirley from your PatientNextDoor Support Team.

I don’t know about you, but there was a time in my life when I wanted someone, anyone else to take the reigns and run my life.

The problem with that thinking was that I was the only one who could be the leader in my life. No one else could.

The reasons are simple.

No one else knew what I truly wanted from life

No one else could change me.

No one else could or wanted to take responsibility for my actions and words

But most of all, I am an adult and adults take responsibility for all they do, good or bad. We set priorities in our lives and don’t blame others for our failures or allow others to take the glory for our successes.

Putting it bluntly, allowing or expecting someone else to fulfill our needs and make us into their image is behaving like a child.

Yet, when we take charge of our lives we must remember one vital thing.

We are responsible for ourselves and cannot change someone else. It is impossible, so don’t try.

Yes, children are an exception to the rule. They require our protection and guidance. But adults are not children.

Taking charge of our lives is the most powerful example we can set for our children and our world depends on us doing so.

I hope you are enjoying the motivational quotes and sayings I try to bring you every weekday. They are meant to inspire thought and to encourage you on your travels through life.

If you have any ideas, suggestions, or just want to leave me a note, please write them in the comment section. I appreciate the feedback.

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Your Motivation for October 26, 2018

Hi again, Shirley from the PatientNextDoor support team giving you your daily boost.

Yep, I must agree with this saying. After all, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.

So, if at first, you don’t succeed, try a different approach to the problem. That way, you keep yourself open to success.

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Your Motivation for October 25, 2018

Good morning everyone. It’s Shirley from the Patient Next Door Team.

Sometimes we get all caught up in what is going on in life and lose sight of who we are. It is vital to step back once in a while from the noise that distracts us, take a deep breathe and concentrate on who you are, what you want, and if you have achieved the life you wanted.

Doing so gives us a chance to see ourselves and where we are more clearly. Then we can change course if need be and make different plans to achieve what we want in life.

Enjoying your life means knowing who you are and by following the advice of the saying above is a wise decision.

Have a great day everybody!

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Your Motivational Quote for October 24, 2018

Happy Wednesday everyone, it’s Shirley from the PatientNextDoor Support Team.

I have to agree wholeheartedly with this quote.

I have faced many severe and overwhelming life changes. However, having worked through them I have a better understanding of myself than most people will ever have.

Yes, facing life on life’s terms is tough, but the growth and maturity one gains are wonderful!

There are two saying in the mental health community that has helped me tremendously.

One is Face Every problem And Recovery (F.E.A.R.) Running from what frightens you does not make it go away.  However, facing those fears and working through them does.

The second is piggybacked onto the first.

The Only Way Out is Through. Working through the problems of your life is the only course that works. You can’t ignore them, you can’t go around, over or under them, all you can do and be successful in life is to work your way through them.

But, cheer up. Even with life’s ups and downs, it is still a beautiful experience. Bad days will come, yes, but those are usually outnumbered by the good only we get so caught up in the drama and trauma that we forget about the good.

Enjoy your life, we’re all in this together.

Shirley

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A Note from My Heart to Yours

Wherever you are in your life today, this saying is true. No matter where you have been in your past, this is true.

Life isn’t meant to be a trial until death. Somedays it is hard, but the sun always returns.

Just a note from my heart to yours.

Shirley from you PatientNextDoor Support Team

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I’m thinking about you this morning because I care.

 

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Your Motivational Quote for October 17, 2018

Hi, Shirley here from your PatientNextDoor support team.

How many times have you heard where people are trying to find themselves?

Finding oneself has been a phenomenon since the 1960s.  However, what is that isn’t what life is all about? What if we don’t need to find ourselves, but rather to reinvent ourselves every day.

That means we take who we are today and do gentle improvements not on where we are in life, but rather who we are.

By taking a long, hard look at who we are who we wish to be, we can create and recreate ourselves into the people that make planet earth and humanity so beautiful.

Just a message from me to you on this cool (in the United States at least) October day.

I count it a privilege and an honor to come to you with my thoughts on life and hope you are enjoying them as well.

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From our hearts to yours, we want you to remember always that,

We really, really care about you.

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