Your Motivation for December 10, 2018

Hello, and welcome to Monday. It’s Shirley from your PatientNextDoor Support Team.

Helen Keller was an exceptional woman. After losing her eyesight and ability to hear at the age of two, she nevertheless went on to graduate from college, give lectures and write books.

There are a few things about Miss Keller’s life that haven’t made it into the movies or popular culture.

The brilliant Helen Keller was forbidden by law to marry and have children because of her disabilities.

To be fair, at that time people didn’t understand genetics like we do today or they would have realized that Helen Keller’s disabilities could not be passed on to her offspring.

At one point in her life, Helen fell in love but she was not allowed to follow through with marrying the young man who loved her dearly.

So, Helen Keller lead a life full of heartache and loss.

However, there was an inner strength in her that is rare. She believed, like I do, that life is an adventure and something to be savored.

Even though she faced enormous hurdles all her life that she was forced to jump over, she still kept to her belief that set her apart from so many,

“Security is mostly superstition. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”

Miss Keller admitted that there is a little bit of security, but she wanted others to know what an adventure life can be if we acknowledge it.

How wonderful is that.

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The High Price Paid on the Planet for Globalization,  the Spread of the Swine and Bird Flu Viruses

Humanity has, in the long past, lived isolated from one another. The people of one region of the world did not contact those of another. However, when humanity began exploring the planet to discover new lands, they took with them the viruses that within themselves were harmless.
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December 7, 2018 ~ Pearl Harbor Day

On December 7, 1941 the Japanese attacked Pearl Harbor, Hawaii.

Regardless of the politics behind the attack, and irregardless of who won the war, countless lives were changed that day.

In total, 2,335 people died including 2,008 Navy personnel, 109 Marines, 218 army men, and 68 civilians.

When the Arizona was hit, 1,177 young men lost their lives.

War is so ugly that no one wins. Eventually, with hearts full of revenge, the United States defeated the Japanese by using weapons that are too horrible to be true.

World War II was the end of an age of innocense and the beginning of a world always on the brink of total anihilation.

Seventy-seven years later the world is still reeling from the affects of a war where it is estimated that between 70-85 million perished, military and civilians alike.

That staggering number includes Holocaust victims, crimes against humanity, bombings, war-related disease and famine, amounting to the tragedy of 19-30 million civilians died.

The number of people who died made up 3% of the world’s population at that time.

As the U.S. grieves today over the deaths of so many young and promising young men, let us join together to also say never again.

I offer you my hopes and prayers that humanity will stop the madness and finally understand that if one of us dies in war, we all do.  For every person is precious adding beauty to the voice of mankind.

“It is from numberless diverse acts of courage and belief that human history is shaped.

Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope,

and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring,

those ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.”

~ Robert F. Kennedy

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Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in this post are the personal views of the author. They do not necessarily reflect the views of PatientNextDoor. Any omissions or errors are the author’s and PatientNextDoor does not assume any liability or responsibility for them.


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Your Motivation for December 7, 2017

Welcome to Friday everyone, it’s Shirley from the PatientNextDoor support team.

I read a quote lately that said,

“It costs $0.00 to be a decent human being.”

How true that is for all of us.

Our world is facing the greatest crisis it has ever seen. Hatred, fear, and divisiveness  threaten to tear apart the fabric of decency that has kept us from destroying one another like never before.

There have been times in the past century when the world was threatened by mad men who wanted to control the earth. However, now humanity has discovered new and horrible ways to kill and destroy every creature on the globe.

What will it take to turn humanity around and assure that our species will continue?

Perhaps if each of us, individually, makes up our minds to practice the seven rules listed above, we can save us from ourselves.

I don’t know about you, but I believe humanity is good and wants to be better, but we must put away our petty differences.

If you look at any X-ray, MRI, or CAT scan of any human being from anyplace in the world, you will see we are far more alike than different.

It doesn’t matter what color you are, what region of the globe you come from, what religion you are, your sexual orientation, or any other demograph you can think of, under our skin there are no differences. None at all.

Mahatma Gandhi said it best when he stated;

“Where there is love there is life.”

It’s time we began to love or at least respect one another and embrace our differences instead of trying to force each other to conform to what we believe is right.

The only other course of action leads to destruction and none of us want that.

Another way we are alike.

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Anxiety & Finances


This topic is very important for those of us with anxiety. Many nights can be spent questioning my finances. Did I pay that bill? Will I have enough for gift giving? Am I saving enough? These are relevant questions. However, I don’t want to answer them when I am trying to fall asleep. Having too much uncertainty about our finances in the current moment and in the future can spike our anxiety. This would be known as a trigger. We will go over that in a later chapter. Whether we have acute anxiety or more severe anxiety, this area has an impact on all of us. We need money for our basic needs such as groceries, gas and housing. Also, we want to use it for the extra things like entertainment, new clothes and even a vacation. It is important to set up our bank account to take away some anxiety about our current situation and in the future.
Any financial mistakes from the past are just that, the past. Obviously, we will still deal with these issues in the current time and future. Whether we charged too much on a credit card or bought an expensive car or furniture. It is okay. What is important is that we learn from our past decisions and repair our present and future situation. Easing anxiety about our financial situation happens in stages. The first stage is organizing everything in writing. We can do this on paper or on a computer. We need to decipher what we bring in and what goes out. Some of us work part time, full time or are on disability. No matter what we bring in and pay out, being organized is key.
Here is an example of having everything written out:
Part time job: $1,090.00 Monthly
Additional income: $800.00 Monthly
Total: $1,890.00
Rent: $600.00
Electric: $65.00
Cable: $40.00
Insurance: $100.00
Gas: $50.00
Groceries: $600.00
Credit Cards: $75.00
Medicine: $25.00
Total: $1,5550.00
Left Over: $335.00
In this situation, everything is written out and calculated. There is no question regarding what is coming in and what is going out. Now we know that there is $335.00 left over. How can we utilize this left over money to minimize anxiety? We organize it. This is stage two. Now that we know how much money is used for our needs, the rest of the money can be put into accounts for our wants. First, let’s pick out four of our wants. Do we want to save for our future? Do we want to use more money to spend on our loved ones or pets? Do we want more fun money? The goal is to choose areas of our life that are important to us and put our money towards those things. We can either create an envelope system to put extra money or use separate bank accounts. With banking apps for smart phones, organizing our money has never been easier. Here is an example of how these accounts will look:
Main account/needs: $755.00
Emergency fund: $250.00
Fun/Vacations: $160.00
Children/Pets: $90.00
401K: $150.00
Gifts: $60.00
These accounts will likely start out small. Many banks allow us to have a few accounts open at once. Some banks require a minimum balance or direct deposit. Calling our bank is the best way to gain clarity of what we can do and to find out minimum requirements. Often times, bank accounts can be opened online or through an app. With our example, there is $335.00 left over. Here is how we will divide the left over income:
Emergency fund: $85.00
Fun/Vacations: $50.00
Children/Pets: $50.00
401K: $50.00
Gifts: $50.00
As we can see, the total equals $285.00. We have $50.00 left over. This money will be allocated to pay back any debts we acquired. Do we owe someone money? Do we want to pay more than the minimum payments on our credit cards? Credit card repayment is included in the budget but we can add extra money to pay back the debt faster. Each account has it’s purpose. These accounts give us peace of mind. We have our emergency fund set up for the unexpected. This can be a car repair, extra medicine cost or a home repair. The fun and vacation account can be for anything from an ice cream treat to a weekend getaway. For the children/pet account, this can be set up for new clothes, medical expenses or an activity. The 401K is for our future. This can give us something to look forward to. This account builds over time. Lastly, my personal favorite, the gift account. Gift giving is very important to me. I always want to make sure that I have money for holidays and birthdays.
When it comes close to Christmas time, I might add a little extra money into this account. I might put only $50.00 into the emergency account and then put $85.00 into the gift account. Because the money is organized, these accounts get replenished as they get used every month. Therefore, when it is bedtime and we start to fret about money, we can put our mind at ease. We have accounts set up for certain situations. Reducing our financial stress can have a large impact on our anxiety. Organizing and understanding our finances can be an important step in improving our quality of life. Improving our quality of life can affect those around us. Learn more in The Anxiety Warriors by Amy Perez MS Psychology.

About the Author:

Amy Perez has a Master’s degree in General Psychology from Nova Southeastern University. Author of The Manic Episode Series and Bipolar Disorder: Thriving, Triggers, Love & Relationships.

Instagram: @avidauthor

Twitter: @PsychologyAmy

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Your Motivation for December 6, 2018


Hello everyone, welcome to Thursday.

It may seem premature to be thinking about the new year, but 2019 is only a few weeks away.

So, it is time NOW to consider the emotional baggage you are carrying and what you want to burden you next year.What is emotional baggage?

“the feelings you have about your past and the things that have happened to you, which often have a negative effect on your behavior and attitudes” Collins Dictionary

The “things” that happened may have been as serious as childhood trauma or as intermediate as someone passing gossip around the office about you.

Humans cannot go back in time, so whatever happened to you, be it twenty years ago or two hours ago, are over, done, kaput.

Why not choose to leave as much of your baggage in 2018 as is humanly possible and move on?

I realize some “things” must be dealt with and cannot nor should not be ignored. However, sometimes choosing to live on and leave what harmed us behind is the best revenge we can have on those who harmed us.

You have a right to grieve over past hurts, but there must come a time to leave those “things” behind and live. You deserve to be happy, and too many times we aren’t being held back by what others have done to us, but by what we do to ourselves.

A bird who has lived in a cage for too long will choose to remain inside and not fly away even when the door is open. We too can inhabit cages of our own making and choose to remain in our misery even though escape is right before us.

We must choose to leave, we must choose to be happy, we must choose to drop the baggage.

Think on this piece of wisdom for today and consider you  baggage before January 1, 2019 arrives.


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Your Motivation for December 5, 2018

Hi everyone, December is here and with its arrival the hubbub of getting ready for Christmas begins.

Because of how the season is created in the movies, the small screen, and Norman Rockwell paintings, we set our sights on making our “perfect Christmas” just like we’ve seen in the media.

On the big and small screens, families may have some turmoil but at the end when Christmas finally arrives all their problems are laid to rest and harmony reigns.

We have all watched as fictitious families sitting about the roaring flames in the fireplace enjoying the love and warmth of family. We have decided we want that too.

Then reality sinks in Christmas morning.

The kids are uncooperative in getting dressed for the obligatory dinner at moms, the dog gets sick from eating tinsel, and it has snowed so you are forced outdoors to shovel it out in the bitter cold.

Our conception of “the perfect Christmas” come crashing down.

“Well,” we may find ourselves thinking, “I’m sure somewhere there is someone having a perfect Christmas, but not here.”

Beset with anger and bitterness, we continue to force a smile and try our best to be jolly when we feel blue.

Sound familiar to anyone out there?

Here is some news that may shock you, no one has the perfect holiday experience. It’s a myth.

Let’s be honest, we set ourselves up for disappointment when we swallow the lie that families are always loving and supportive during the holidays. Beginning in September (at least in my town), big retailers begin putting up Christmas trees to entice shoppers. Then the day after Thanksgiving the madness begins.

The long lines.

Children crying because they want Christmas toys NOW.

The extra house cleaning.

The worry over how much you want to go into debt to “celebrate.”

The Christmas carols playing so loud in the department stores that they are annoying.

What we all need to realize is that although we have been influenced by what we view on TV, we are the ones who are setting ourselves up for disappointment.

Perhaps it’s time to rearrange what “the perfect Christmas” means to us and our families.

The beginning of this change needs to be taking stock of what is important and what will last.

Will the toy your child gets this year be remembered in twenty years when they are grown?

And speaking of grown children, yours won’t be small for long, shouldn’t you be enjoying them today?

Perhaps it is time for us to set new traditions for our families such as telling each other one funny (not sarcastic) story about one family member on Christmas morning. Alert all the members of your household that they will be telling a story and draw names out of a hat to get the person they will be speaking on. Tell everyone to keep who they have pulled a secret and let the fun begin.

Plan to stay home Christmas morning. Relief yourself of the travel and cold. Then sit about and watch Christmas movies while eating cookies.

If the kids get rambunctious, plan ahead with some family games that all can participate in. If you have toddlers in your home, team them up with someone older.

Forget the hassle of shopping in busy and crowded stores.

Have everyone make their presents for one another. Ask for lists from everyone for the materials they need and tell everyone to help each other when aid is requested.

Reassure the kids that they will be receiving a few things from Santa, but don’t overdo it.

There are literally tons of things that you can plan but remember to keep it all light and to keep your expectations in check.

After all, kids are kids and there are bound to be a few moments of bickering along the way. Don’t get bogged down and blue when your kids don’t act like perfect Norman Rockwell angels during the holidays.

Decide with your family what really matters to all of you. I think you will find that what kids want from you at Christmas time isn’t the expensive presents or the ride to grandma’s house. What they want more than anything is your time, attention, and love.

We’ll be taking more looks at dealing with the holiday seasons as the month goes along. Keep your chin up and your head out of the perfect Norman Rockwell clouds.


Here at Patient Next Door we are dedicated to helping your family not only survive the holiday season, but to truly enjoy it.

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Your Motivation for December 4, 2018

Hello, welcome to Tuesday.

We’re all guilty of it, worrying about something and anticipating the worst.

However, what does it benefit us? How does spending time worrying help the situation be resolved in our favor?

It doesn’t.

All worrying ever does is make us miserable and many times we’ve expended huge amounts of energy and the situation resolves itself without the worst ever happening.

What can we do differently?

We can choose to not anticipate the worst but believe in the best possible outcome.

We can trust that we have made the correct decisions that will promote a good outcome.

You can also make plans ahead of time to deal with any problems that do arise should the worst happen.

Then the hard part begins, sit back quietly and wait.

Don’t forget to download and utilize our free Patient Next Door app onto your smartphone. With it, you can share the healthcare journey of you and your child with people who are facing similar conditions.

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8 gift ideas for a loved one on autism spectrum

With the holiday season upon us, it’s time to think about gifts and when it comes to buying gifts for a child who has autism, it can get really challenging trying to figure out the best options. If they are obsessively interested in something , chances are that all the gifts they get end up being only of a particular kind. If they do not really have much of an interest in anything at all, like my son is, then we are left wondering what to get.

After a few years of walking up and down the toy aisles and browsing tons of sensory stores websites I think I have come up with a list that might help a few of you out there.

  1. Pets


    If your child has autism , it’s highly likely that he has few to none friends. Pets , even if they are not therapy dogs, can be such a great gift for someone who is lonely and needs a playmate. They can also be a great emotional support. Besides, they are cuddly and furry and cute. Do you need more reasons? Your local pet store might be already running an adoption event for you to find your special friend.

  2. Fidget baskets

    photo Credit:Puzzle Pieces A sensory Sensation

    who doesn’t like fidgets ? It’s the best way to destress and for kids on the spectrum, almost an inseparable part of them. Spinners, fidget cubes, slinky, marble in a tube, chain fidgets, tangles, roller chain fidget, stretchy strings, pencil fidgets…the list goes on. I bet they would be excited to unwrap this gift and you would be their instant favorite !

  3. Sensory Kits –

    photo Credit:Puzzle Pieces A sensory Sensation

    this is hours of fun right there. Sensory kits can be such an awesome gift when it comes to children on the spectrum and those with Sensory Processing Disorder. There are a ton of options to choose from – visual, oral, tactile and many more. Water beads, moon sand, theraputty, slime ,pin art toy, gel mats, stress balls that come in different shapes and sizes can be very attractive for tactile sensory seekers. Lava lamps, spinning toys, rain tubes, plasma balls, bubble column can be some of the  options for visual stimulation , things that vibrate like a vibrating chew toy, chewy tubes that now come in the form of a jewelry are also very popular among kids with autism. A sensory kit with a mix of these toys would make any kid happy.

  4. movement toys

    photo Credit:Puzzle Pieces A sensory Sensation

    Movement is another popular activity for autistic kids. They like motion. Think swings, hammock, kids rocking chair, spinning chairs etc. I have hooks inside my house where I can hook in a hammock or hang a swing in so that the winter season does not spoil the fun. There are some fun shaped spinning chairs out there that can serve as a cool cocoon and also provide the movement these kids crave for. For my son, even an office chair that spins or a bar stool provides entertainment. There are some sit and spin toys too that you can get if your child is small. Trampoline and exercise ball is yet another fun gift . OTs use this all the time for different exercises. Bouncing on it while watching TV or when listening to a story can help them shake off the excess energy.

  5. Sensory Room

    photo Credit:Puzzle Pieces A sensory Sensation

    If you are up to it and have the space and the resources for it , a sensory room can be an ultimate gift for your child. Many specialty stores now offer help creating a sensory room with calming lights, padded walls and floors, soft music, swings, sensory toys and the whole nine yard. Sometimes you might be able to get funding to do this as well.

  6. Deep pressure products

    photo Credit:Puzzle Pieces A sensory Sensation

    Deep pressure can be very calming to people with sensory issues. It provides proprioceptive input that can help kids be more aware of their body in space. Weighted blankets are commonly used to help kids stay asleep, weighted vests, weighted lap pads or weighted stuffed toys have a calming effect when kids are sitting or moving around and need to have a calm body. Body sock, cozy canoe, stretch bands , weighted wristbands are also ways to get deep pressure and can be cool gifts to give . If want to go real crazy, there is also a squeeze machine that a lot of OTs use to give that input they seek but nothing beats a good old bear hug for deep pressure so don’t forget to give that!!

  7. Headphones


    it’s common knowledge now that auditory sensitivity is pretty prevalent among kids with sensory issues. Giving them a good pair of noise cancelling headphones can be something that can be very useful for them. Maybe giving them an iTunes gift card to purchase some calming music to listen on the headphone can be an icing on the cake.

  8. Apps and technology

    child with ipad

    If you have a tech savvy child who is glued on to his iPad then give him the gift of apps. AutismSpeaks , Autism Parenting Magazine and several other websites offer a list of Autism friendly apps that are especially designed for kids on the spectrum. For non-verbal kids, a communication app like TouchChat or Proloquo can be a great gift. Apps that help in making visual schedule, educational apps meant specially for autistic kids or games that your child has special inclination for can be a few of the app ideas to buy for your child. Another nice gift can be a GPS tracker . It helps them stay safe and communicate with a caregiver in case they are separated or in need.


Although there are a plethora of gifts out there that you can gift to you little one, the most important ones cost nothing at all – your time, your love and your belief in them. Never forget to give plenty of these to them and you will not find them complaining much 🙂


Happy Holidays!!


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Your Motivation for December 3, 2018

Hello, and welcome to Monday! It’s Shirley again here to share some motivation with you.

Life can be hard and very demanding. We often find ourselves bogged down and fearful because of events that happen over which we have little to no control.

The horrendous storms of turmoil fill our days and nights with worry and sometimes we don’t see how we will ever be happy again.

A good friend once repeated this quote to me, “Hang on. One day you’ll wake up and realize that the clouds have finally parted and the sun is shining again.”

That was sound advice and goes along with the quote I’ve included above.

The truth is that hard times befall us all. Sometimes we get so caught up in the drama and trauma of those events that we feel lost and alone.

However, above the clouds of fear and helplessness, the sun is shining.

I guarantee it.

One way to conquer over the worry and uncertainty of hard times is to use them as a platform to rise above the clouds.

Slow down for a minute, or even stop what you are doing.

Take time to be grateful for what you have.

Think about how far you have come instead of the defeat you are feeling about where you are.

I guarantee if you look back along the road you’ve traveled you will find that you have traveled farther than you imagined.

That’s when the sun is shining because it brings new understanding and light into your understanding of your life’s travels.

If, while you are basking in the warmth of the sun,  you discover you’ve made a wrong turn, then make the decisions that will propel you in the right direction.

Don’t waste time on regret and self-loathing for going down the incorrect road, be proactive and change your direction.

Be proud that you were able to rise up above the clouds long enough to recognize you have traveled far in the wrong direction.

Yes, life can be very difficult. However, we always have the choice to reassess where we are and take actions to make the corrections in our course and make our lives better.

Chin up, as long as you are alive, there is always hope.

Don’t forget to download and utilize our free Patient Next Door app onto your smartphone. With it, you can share the healthcare journey of you and your child with people who are facing similar conditions.

The app isn’t just free, it is ads free!

As always, we here at Patient Next Door love serving you and hope you will join us in aiding others in finding resources and hope.

We care about you.

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