Your Motivation for November 12, 2018

There is an old saying that I remember from my early years that comes from Christianity, “Don’t be so heavenly minded that you’re no earthly good.”

It may be that the church picked up this saying from Theodore Roosevelt, or maybe the other way around.

No matter who began this intriguing thought the premise of it and message it conveys is relevant to all of us, regardless of our political or religious affiliation.

By keeping our eyes on the stars we can reach for a goal that may at first seem impossible.  Take for instance my own work at living a chaos-free life caused by dissociative identity disorder. When I began my journey the life I have now seemed far off and unreachable, yet I kept fighting on. I kept my eyes on the prize if you will.

But I kept my feet firmly planted in the reality that no matter how hard or long I work on the issues caused in my past, I cannot change that past. I can only learn to accept and use my past to propel me into a brighter future.

If we don’t pay attention to either keeping our eyes on the stars or our feet on the ground, we get in trouble quick.

By only focusing on the stars we forget the realities of life and will lose our dreams due to the frustration of the failures that will inevitably be a part of our search.

If we only focus on the ground, we forget our dreams and never go for them at all deeming them impossible to reach.

I may not be a master of understanding of life, but I do know that all humans need to do both to remain in balance and be happy.

I’m grateful to Randeep Singh and you for allowing me to come to you with these little pieces of motivation and the articles that I write for PatientNextDoor. I enjoy writing to you all very much.

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Your Motivation for November 8, 2018

Hi again, Shirley here from PatientNextDoor.

Winston Churchill was Prime Minister of England during the second world war, possibly the darkest time in recent history for that country.

His fellow citizens faced daily bombing from the Germans and loss of life was always on everyone’s mind.

Mr. Churchill knew pain, he knew pain, he knew what it was like to live through the hell of war.

Somehow he found the courage to give his country the emotional support and strength they desperately needed to make it through.

While the tragedy of war may seem an extreme example to compare to personal discouragement and problems, I submit they are very much the same.

We all go tough times now and then. Sometimes those hard times get really trying and seem like they will never end.

Some of us begin to think of taking drastic actions to end our pain such as running away from our families or even dying by suicide.

I have been there, I know. I have almost lost my life to suicide four times in my 58 years on planet earth.

If there is one thing I hope you will remember today, it is the message I’m leaving you below.

Yes, you may be living through the turmoil of hell today but what about tomorrow or a month even a year from now? What then? What good thing is right around the corner that you cannot see yet because it is in the future?

When I get ill with my depression and other problems, and I feel a spat of suicidality coming on, I remind myself of just that.

If I hang on, the fire of the current hell will sputter and die. Beyond the horizon of the “now” that separates me from my future may be the most powerful and wonderful experience I could have ever imagined.

Life is full of tragedies and triumphs. It’s all a matter of, like Winston Churchill so aptly put it, keeping going.

I hope these little notes I try to write to you during the week help you. I know they help me to remember who I am and that life is beautiful despite its trials and tribulations.

Have a wonderful rest of your Thursday. Shirley

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Your Motivation for November 7, 2018

 

Hi, Shirley here with your motivation to help you finish this Wednesday in early November.

We all have a basic flaw that has been passed down through our human lineage, we tend to pay more attention to what is going wrong than what and might go right.

At least, I do.

I’ll confess, I talk a great talk, but sometimes I get lost in the negativity that most of the time is invented by my own mind. I feel negative about where I live and lose sight of the fact that I live better than over half the world.

I get negative about my being in a wheelchair and forget that there are millions in the world who are suffering severe illnesses and lack the care they need.

I tend to spend a great deal of time focusing on what might go wrong in the future, and forget that there is an equal chance things will go right.

What’s worse, I tend to become the author of self-fulfilling prophecy, making myself vulnerable to overlook the steps I could take to avoid failure.

Are you like me?

Well, if so, don’t be hard on yourself because you are definitely in good company.

How can we change this flaw in ourselves? How can we end the self-fulfilling prophecies that make our lives tough?

The only answer I have found is to make a gratitude list.

Making a gratitude sounds simple and easy, and it is if you’re experiencing a happy time in your life.

However, writing a list of things you are thankful for when you feel crappy is much harder.

Start simple. Can you see, hear, speak, walk and have a roof over your head? Be grateful for those things. Then branch out. Have you got plenty of food, clean water, and warm clothing to wear? Be grateful for those things because millions do not.

While making your list at first you will frown at the exercise, but before you have finished you may find you are experiencing a whole different feeling, joy.

Yep, a dose of gratitude goes a long way and if you are anything like me, you know, human, you will need to remind yourself of that often.

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Don’t worry if you forget you have lots to be thankful for, we all have been there.

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Your Motivation for November 6, 2018

Hi, it’s Shirley from your PatientNextDoor support team.

I don’t know about you, but I have spent a lot of time with trial and error. I started to go to college when I was 18 and didn’t finish my Associate Degree until I was 56. I had a lot of illness and had to drop school over and over again.

But you know what? I kept trying and trying until one evening in 2016 I crossed the stage and received my diploma.

The victory of receiving my degree was made even sweeter because I had been trying so hard for so many years.

Edison could have given up trying to find the right filament for his new-fangled light bulb but he didn’t. He tried one after the other for years and on the 10,000th try met with success.

Isn’t that the gumption and power all humans possess? Some of us give up early believing they cannot succeed, but to many humans, a challenge that is difficult is something to be desired and cherished.

You see, that curiosity of what is around the next bend or around the next corner is what has driven our species to inhabit the entire globe.

I guess what I’m saying is this.

If you meet with a tough situation and can’t find the answers, that’s okay. Keep trying.

That doesn’t mean trying the same thing over and over again believing you will get a different result. That is one definition of insanity.

What it does mean is that we should never give up, especially on our dreams.

Have a wonderful Tuesday everybody!! Shirley

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Your Morning Motivation for November 5, 2018

Good morning everyone, welcome to Monday. It’s Shirley from the Patient Next Door support team.

This picture truly does say a thousand words. There are some things we can control, and many of them are listed above. If we spend our time paying attention to the things WE CAN control then we can live calm lives.

However, when our eyes roam to other people and we see things in their lives that we want to change, that’s when we get into trouble.

You see, we cannot change others, nor can we control them.

Unless the other person is a very young child, we are not responsible for their actions. Even when the things they are doing are harmful to them, we cannot and will not ever change someone else’s life. They are responsible. Period.

Learning to accept this concept is vital to living well and enjoying life.

As always, I do not bring topics like this to our reader’s attention not to scold or to make anyone feel bad about themselves.

I bring them to your attention so that you will become aware because awareness is the first step in defeating a problem.

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A Sudden Storm – Leukemia Survivor

My name is Sanghamitra Roy and about one year ago, my life changed forever… I was diagnosed with leukemia–a form of blood cancer. This was a huge change from the past four glorious years—the best phase of my life so far. Between 2014-2017, my husband and I received promotion and tenure at our jobs; we received a lot of national and international recognition for our research and travelled several countries of the world with our child. However, since my diagnosis, it has been an incredible journey and I would not have been able to fight this without my two warriors: my husband Koushik and my son Deep.

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Your End of the Week Motivation for November 2, 2018

Hi there. Shirley here.

This quote doesn’t have to come true. We can choose to live life until we die instead of mourning a life lost.

Sometimes in these modern times, we get all tangled up in the struggles of living that we forget to live.

We are always reaching and reaching and thinking, “Oh, I need to struggle now. There will be plenty of time later to do more living.”

If you are like me, you sometimes feel like a hamster on a wheel trying and trying but going nowhere fast.

I try to remind myself, and I’m reminding you now, that there may be no later. None of us is promised a long life and death in old age. Why not get off the hamster wheel and pay attention to the flowers or the fall colors. Why not take time now to stand under the stars and point them out to our children.

Why not?

Just a reminder from my heart to yours about what matters most in our lives.

 

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Your Motivation for November 1, 2018

Hi, me again, Shirley your contact person with the PND support team.

l wrote the above quote with this picture to illustrate a point that too many of us miss.

No one can make us happy or unhappy. We choose to allow the behavior, attitudes, and words of others change how we feel about our own happiness.

We harm ourselves by not choosing ways that are healthy to cope with our day to day lives.

For instance, depending on a significant other to “fulfill you” is hogwash. If you aren’t fulfilled before you get involved romantically, your relationship is doomed from the start.

Two half people do not make a whole.

Two wounded people cannot heal each other.

By finding the wounds in our own hearts and healing as best we can BEFORE we meet someone else we are not only much more likely to be happy but to choose others who are also healed of their own baggage.

Hey, I’m not an expert when it comes to this concept, God knows I have harmed myself a lot through not doing as this piece suggests. However, now that I am aware I stand a much greater chance at love and living a happy life.

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I enjoy bringing you these slivers of information and hope. If you have one you would like to share, please send us a note! I would love to publish your motivational quote or story here.

As always, we here at Patient Next Door love serving you and hope you will join us in aiding others in finding resources and hope.

Remember, we care about you and we’re all in this together.
 

 

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